Once In The Highlands

I’ve been so busy working on scripts, manuscripts, deadlines, and other menial tasks that I’ve been unable to properly update this site the way I intended. I’m still working away on the Other Lives manuscript. The first draft is nearly complete. It’s evolved and grown in many ways over the past six months and I am happy with the direction it is taking me.

In the meantime, I’ve written several scripts for an upcoming graphic novel anthology on literary icons. I’ve also begun work on an original graphic novel, heavily inspired by the ancient Servile Wars and concepts like globalization, among other things. My workload is heavier than it’s ever been, but I have no complaints.

Today I am sitting in my office looking out at the hills and reading And Our Faces, My Heart, Brief as Photos by John Berger. It teaches me something new every time I return to it. Here is a poem that has inspired Other Lives in many ways.

On your island

does the night fall later?

Am I walking a little ahead of you

so that no snake will bite

your sandalled foot?

The balance is never made.

This is why the stars are silent

offering no account.

How to measure

a season


the calendar of your absence?

How to measure

the stream

of my tangled light

in the mountain

of what has been

and will be?

The balance is never made.

Yet in the night your eyes and mine

sounding one another

show no trace of vertigo.

For Once, Then, Something

It’s December 2014 now. I began writing this novel last December. It may be a sign of maturity that I haven’t been pitching the unfinished manuscript to every agent I can track down. Impatience aside, I am one-hundred pages into this manuscript. I’d estimate having cut approximately two-hundred pages in the past six months. There have been so many rewrites that I’ve lost track, but it is a reassurance that I am sticking to my original vision, and not rushing to complete it for the sake of monetary comfort. It is, as I have been saying over and over, my first true novel. I stand by that sentiment.

My office is covered in whiskey and beer bottles, ink-filled notebooks, and ear-marked books. I’ve spent more nights in this office than I can remember. Some nights I drink and hammer on my keyboard until sunrise and collapse in my bed. Other nights, Aryn taps me on the shoulder to tell me it’s morning and that she’s leaving for work. “Sleep now,” she says. And occasionally, I lay on the floor and stare at the ceiling while psilocybin teleports me to another dimension and I examine my life from as many perspectives as I can fathom before I slip into a kind of madness and laugh until I come back down again.

I’ve changed while writing this book. I suppose twenty-seven is a fine time to begin understanding who I am. This understanding is due in large part to a group of friends I have affectionately deemed ‘my teachers’. David teaches me to laugh. Anthony teaches me to let go. My nieces teach me to love. Others teach me to see the funnier aspects of myself and not to brood so often. Still, there are familiar parts of me that linger. You might call them scars or something equally as cliche and childish – regret, remorse, old flames, the unending anguish I can’t quite explain, and the nagging uncertainty of impending death.

All of this to say that I am still working to finish this damned book.

Happy holidays,


The Lengthened Shadow Of A Man

I suppose this post is a reaction to what others have written regarding the death of Robin Williams. Mostly, I think it is born from the deep loathing I feel when I read what imbeciles like Matt Walsh have written regarding the suicide. I would apologize for the harshness of the previous sentence, but I feel no remorse for the hatred I have toward bloated beasts of ignorance like Walsh.

It happened when I was much younger, but the effects have lingered. I started lying after I lost my brother when I was only fifteen. He sprinted away down the driveway in a fit of anger and he was gone from my life. He was without a doubt a victim of what had happened when we were younger. Like myself, he is afflicted with various disorders, not the least of which is his bipolar disorder. I have confided the events of the trauma to one person in the past twenty-seven years, and that person is dead now, along with many of my loved ones.

The lying began as a way to avoid confrontation with my trauma. I wanted (needed) to live in a reality where I was in control of my life and the events that transpired within it. I could not confess, even to myself, what had happened to me, and I still have great difficulty accepting that the events are a real part of my past. I have great difficulty accepting what the damage has cost me throughout my life.

Underneath all of the lying and hiding I tried to treat my neurosis with God. I was raised evangelical and indoctrinated within evangelicalism, like so many other Americans. For many years I studied theology and attempted to adhere to the expectations of that bizarre subculture. I was unaware for some time that I was trading one abuse for another, and when I finally abandoned my faith, I found some measure of spiritual peace. In many ways it has helped greatly to abandon the expectation of some afterlife. The guilt I felt at my disbelief no longer has a hold on me, and for that I am grateful. But, the negative effects of that faith are still present.

For a short while, there was L. She was a wreck, and a victim of monstrous injustice. I am sure the pain of her past still causes her suffering. She lost a great deal and I believe that loss is what drew us together. The two of us are similar, and vastly different, as well. She is much stronger than I am in dealing with the pain. Regardless, her story belongs to her, and I would be a fool to attempt to tell it.

We were in love once and we did our best to care for each other, but our youth and our confusion greatly outweighed the love we felt for each other, and in the end she could no longer get through the layers of lies and facades to the frightened boy beneath. She had to let me go and moved on to become one of the strongest and wisest human beings I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. Her triumph is something that will never cease to amaze me.

The death of Daniel and the loss of L only compounded the dread and depression inside of me. Their loss and the guilt I felt because of it, coupled with the chronic suffering triggered by my autoimmune disorders became too much to endure, and so one day I drove my car at seventy miles per hour through the rain into a highway median. I left the hospital a few hours later with three bruised ribs, a sprained wrist, and a chest contusion. I went into my job, sat at my cubicle and stared at my computer monitor.

Jared found me in my cubicle with blood on my torn shirt. There were still shards of glass in my long scraggly hair. My manager called me into his office, stared at me in amusement, and sent me home.

Shortly after my first suicide attempt, I quit my job, and began traveling the country. I wanted to get as far away from familiarity and reminders of my sadness as I could. There was a sprint in Chicago. There were months in Brooklyn. I rented a cabin in Paris for the first time. And the lying persisted more fiercely than ever because no one knew me, and I wanted it to be that way because to all of these strangers I was perfectly okay, and my pain did not exist to them. I spent weeks driving around the country, sleeping in rest stops, and camping in state parks. I believe I was trying to reconcile all the guilt I felt about my lying and sadness and misery.

There were entire months lost to me. My friend sold me stockpiled bottles of painkillers he had stolen from his mother. All I knew was that there were empty bottles of percocet scattered on my floorboard and unending periods of fogginess and delusion. I saw my deceased grandmother in my dreams, imploring me to go home and get help. In New Mexico I slept in a wigwam and suffered insane bouts of sleep paralysis and delusions. I saw Daniel and dreamt that he was alive and well in New York. I envisioned pulling back the flap of the wigwam to come and nurse me back to sanity and repair me. Sometimes I sat paralyzed and trembling for hours, staring at my brother’s face in the dark of the tent, covered in sweat and weeping for help.

At times, I would get lonely and return home, until the persisting guilt and despair forced me back into my car, and onto the next city. There were months in the van with LD. There was San Diego where Jordan cleaned up my vomit and comforted me and displayed a tenderness I have only experienced a handful of times. There were moments in the van where I felt like shouting, “someone, please, help me!”

In Nassau, I ate conch, and I drank whiskey. I hid from my life, and I blew my money. Trying to work things out with God had failed so I tried to kill myself with pills, but I only slept and hallucinated about people I missed. Afterward, I took a boat back to the states and headed for Paris where I began writing and drinking myself to death. I still haven’t forgiven myself for leaving the states without telling my mother where I was headed. She lived for three months without knowing if I was dead or alive.

And in Kansas City, Britt and Molly put me to bed when I would drink five-dollar bottles of peach vodka until I vomited and collapsed and went hysterical with grief and madness. And I started to see that at the core of all the grief, and sorrow, and rage, and resentment, was a tremendous guilt. I carried the guilt of all the people I had pushed away with my lying and distrust. I despised myself. But, more importantly, I believed that what had happened to me as a child was my fault. I believed I was to blame for what I had suffered, and I couldn’t say why I believed it, but I did.

When I left Kansas City, I traveled some more, and finally returned to St. Louis where I tried to calm down with God again. And I married and found some measure of peace and stopped drinking and popping pills.

While in Portland I regressed back into my depression, and felt a great despair as my faith in a creator dissipated. This is when I was writing Forest Life. Every night I left and walked through the city to observe and talk with homeless people on the streets. There were tweakers and drunkards and prostitutes. I loved them most of all. No one could understand how I managed to evoke despair in such a raw and unyielding way, but that was the very purest part of myself in the story. And eventually I reconciled with my disbelief in God, and I reconciled with my guilt, and I forgave myself.

We returned home to Missouri, where I have relapsed into heavy drinking many times. (I was especially hit hard when my friend John died a few months ago.) My autoimmune disorders sometimes hospitalize me for weeks on end and the painkillers are often very necessary. There is so much pain in the world and I see all of it, all the time. It never shuts off. While people ramble on about nonsense at gatherings, I stare into the distance and think of it all.

Sometimes it is still overwhelming. It becomes too much for me to brush off, so Anthony implores me to sleep because I go days without it. Aryn comforts and encourages me when I relapse and I stop eating and see only the pain. In the morning she walks into my office to see how my writing has gone through the night. She kisses me and rubs my back and sits beside me.

I fight my way out again and again. I’m finally Shane Fulgham again (I know the website needs a makeover) and I accept what happened to me when I was younger.

And I understand that this raging war within myself will never really be over. Some day it will end, tragically or otherwise, but it will persist until my death. I understand that my disorders are degenerative. They will kill me some day.

The pain is apart of my life and apart of my identity. I chose to stop running and embrace it. It’s the bravest thing I’ve ever done.

If I kill myself tomorrow, it won’t be because I’m a coward, or because I’m selfish.

That’s just the best I can do.

It’s the best any of us can do.